Online Individual Therapy
If you’ve been thinking about individual therapy, this is where we start
If you’ve been thinking about individual therapy, this is where we start.
This is a one-to-one space where we take time to properly understand what’s been going on for you, especially in your relationships.
Most people don’t arrive with a clear explanation. It’s usually more that something has been building for a while and is starting to feel harder to carry on as things are.
You might notice it in how you respond to people, how conversations unfold, or how you feel afterwards when you’ve had time to think things over. It can feel like the same situations keep happening, even when you’re trying to do things differently.
A lot of what we look at sits around relationships. That might be what’s happening for you now with a partner, family member, friend, or at work. It can also include earlier experiences that still seem to shape how things feel today.
We slow things down and look at what actually happens… what you notice, what you feel, what you tend to do, and how the other person responds. Over time, people often find things start to feel clearer, they understand themselves differently, and they respond in ways that feel more like them.
“It’s not just what happens to us that shapes how we feel… it’s how those experiences live on in our relationships with others and ourselves.”
- Myrna Weissman
How we’ll work together
We’ll usually start with something real.
That might be a conversation that stayed with you, a situation that didn’t land the way you expected, or something you’ve found yourself going over afterwards.
We’ll slow that down and look at what actually happened. What you were trying to say, what you felt in that moment, what you needed, and how it was responded to.
At times, we may stay with the emotional side of that a little longer. Not to overwhelm things, but to help you recognise and understand what’s there, especially if it’s something that’s been harder to put into words.
We’ll also look at how these experiences connect to your relationships more broadly. That might include patterns that repeat, roles you find yourself in, or what you come to expect from other people.
Sometimes we might think through different ways of responding, or practise how you want to say something so it feels clearer and more in line with what you need.
At times, we might explore different parts of your experience, for example a part of you that holds back and another part that wants something to change, to better understand what’s going on internally as well as in your relationships.
I’ll stay actively involved throughout. I’ll reflect what I’m noticing, check things out with you, and where it feels useful, offer a different way of looking at something so it can be understood more clearly.
The aim isn’t just to talk things through, but to understand them in a way that leads to change, both in how you feel and in how you relate to others.
What to expect from sessions
Sessions are usually weekly.
They last 50 minutes, or longer (around 1 hour 20 minutes) if that feels more helpful for you. We can decide that together depending on what you need.
At the beginning, we’ll take time to build a clearer picture of what’s been going on in your life, not just on the surface, but underneath it as well. We’ll start to notice what feels most important, and what you would like to feel different.
As we continue, sessions become a space where you can bring real situations, conversations, and reactions, and we can look at them together in a bit more detail.
Change doesn’t usually happen in one big moment. It tends to build gradually, as things begin to make more sense and feel less overwhelming, and you start to respond differently in ways that feel more natural to you.
This might be right for you if…
You might recognise yourself here if the same things keep happening in your relationships, or you’re left feeling unsure about how you come across to others.
You might be finding it hard to say what you need, or feeling like you’re giving a lot to other people without really knowing where you fit in that.
You might be going through a change, a loss, or a shift in your life that’s left things feeling unsettled.
Or you might just have a sense that something isn’t quite working in the way you want it to.
You don’t need to arrive with a clear explanation. We can start with whatever feels most present and take it from there.